Well we’re quickly moving through the first month of a new year. You know what that means, everyone is making resolutions that they may or may not keep longer than a couple weeks.
You have the typical “weight lose” or “get fit” resolutions, “be a better person” or “stop smoking”. More and more you come across resolutions that focus on self care, which I think is fantastic.
So what are my new years resolutions?
This may shock and surprise you but I didn’t make any. Of course I want to be a better person (who doesn’t?). But that’s something I focus on every day of my life. Lose weight and get fit? Nah, obviously getting healthier would be great. But my body seems pretty comfortable where it’s at.
I don’t smoke or drink so I don’t need to quit those. Honestly I just want to focus on my mental health. To read about my mental health story click on the link.
My mental health is something I have struggled with for many years. I didn’t recieve help for it till 2016. Even in today’s world mental illness has such a stigma. In some cases it can influence employers, family and friends or even educational prospects.
I want to continue to work hard to end that stigma. I also want to work hard to represent body positivity with all different types of diversity. Not just the tall, hour glass shapes, or flat stomachs.
“You yourself, as much as anybody in the entire universe, deserve your love and affection”
With that on point quote from Budda, I come to self love and self care. This was something I was extremely mindful of in 2019 and am trying to carry that through in 2020.
Even if it’s something as simple as having a herbal tea, taking 10 minutes to read some poetry or meditate. It all makes a difference. Putting work aside to watch a funny show or movie (I’m currently really into the sitcom Bob <3’s Abishola) or taking 20 minutes to go for a run or read a chapter in the book your currently reading.
It doesn’t matter what you do as long as it is something you enjoy. You want to bring yourself happiness.
You can see some ideas for self love/care in this blog post https://thephatgirlblog.com/8-ways-to-practice-self-love-in-a-world-that-tells-you-youre-not-enough/
let’s wrap this up
Well there you have it! A blurb of my “goals”. Which honestly aren’t goals, there just things I do (or try to do) everyday.
Did you make any resolutions? Decide to turn over a new leaf? I’d love to hear them! Leave me your thoughts down in the comments below.
Till next time my Phat friends